By Karyn L. Beach
I don’t have many regrets. But, I did have one pretty big one, one that had followed me for almost two decades … and then something amazing happened. It went away. Yes. It did. Just like that! I always wondered what would have happened if I would have made the decision to just stay in Cleveland. I could have married my college sweetheart and had a couple of kids. When I would see women who had that kind of domestic setting, I would feel tugs of envy and tinges of regret. "Maybe, I should have…" I would say to myself. Christmas before last, I went home for a visit. While hanging out with a good friend, we made a stop by her sister’s house. Her sister had it all - the hubby and the nice home and the beautiful kids. She was exactly the kind of woman that sparked those tugs and tinges within me. I asked her how she’d been because we hadn’t seen each other in quite a while (years). And she talked about the husband and the kids and the job and she seemed truly happy. And, I was truly happy for her. As we prepared to leave, I had an epiphany. In that moment, I realized, that if her life had been my life, I would have spent years in quiet desperation. I would not have been happy. I probably would have driven myself crazy! I realized that the road frequently traveled wasn’t the road for me. I’d been on the right path - my path - all along. I thought about all the amazing things I’d seen and done and the insane variety of people I’ve met that never would have been possible living day-to-day in a suburb of Cleveland. Yes, I still want the hubby and the kid (not plural!) but I need to have that in my own way in my own time. At that moment, I literally felt the weight being lifted from my shoulders and I knew that I would never again feel those same tugs and tinges. I can appreciate someone else’s path without wishing it were my own.
May 18 2009 | Power Boost: June 2009 and Your Emotional Self | No Comments »
By Lisa Thomas
I was engaged in a trial coaching call with a great woman recently and we were talking candidly about her vision. She had struggled with finances for quite some time and lost some of her passion and zeal for life, so she thought a session with me would impact that area.
After years of being in this type of work, it doesn’t take very long to discover one’s vision. If each of us is willing to "open our mind" to our heart’s desire, a vision will clearly emerge. To this woman’s surprise, the vision did quickly emerge. In fact, it had always been there. She had clarified that vision 20 years before but was not living out of it or making it happen. In fact, it’s on one of her many business cards and even her license plate!
Some of us struggle with clarity of our vision while others are very clear but wonder how to have it manifest itself into the world. One major barrier is finances, thus purpose or vision may never be pursued at ones fullest potential. This woman’s struggle was that very thing! I thought it befitting to share a book with her called "The Secrets of The Millionaire Mind" by T. Harv Eker. We spoke in depth about how she can manage her finances to assist in expanding her vision, rather than finances being the barrier.
Eker’s book is written with the intention to shift the mindset about money. It’s worth reading a number of times. Sometimes we simply need a few pieces of information to have life all come together. In this woman’s case, it was embracing and owning her vision and having some information about how to manage money effectively so that her vision could grow and expand.
T. Harv Eker speaks about and makes suggestions regarding percentages of income/revenue and how to put you in the driver’s seat of your life when it comes to finances. For example, only 50% of your income should be spent on necessities while 10% goes to investments, 10% short term savings, 10% education, 10% to give away and 10% for fun. I highly recommend the book. Read it again and again until the information becomes your mantra.
The woman I spoke of earlier is excited. In fact, she called the next day and left a message singing "I got passsssionnn, I got passion." What a wonderful message to receive. It certainly lifted me to higher heights for the day!
I believe the power lives within you and you deserve to be in the driver’s seat of every aspect of your life…So dare to learn more. Knowledge is POWER.
May 14 2009 | Life & Vision Coaching and Other Useful Articles and Power Boost: June 2009 and The President's Corner and Women and Money! | No Comments »
