Your Balancing Act:
Imagine standing on one leg in high heels tossing around everything on your plate(of life) trying to balance yourself. You might be able to do it for a half a second, but you probably couldn’t keep it up for long, right? I know I couldn’t! LOL! I think that’s how most of us feel about life. We’re tossing so many things up in the air hoping we’ll catch a few of them and land in perfect balance.
Many women think of balance as spending the ‘right’ amount of time between work, family, relationship and friends. Unfortunately, that kind of balance is fleeting, unrealistic and/or maybe even impossible. Real balance isn’t about time at all. It’s more about aligning your vision with your thoughts and actions.
While you might strive for balance, until you clarify your vision and purpose, actually achieving it will be an ongoing frustrating process. As previously mentioned, you’ll have it for a moment, but shortly after you won’t. Most will try again and again wondering if there’s just too much on their plate. They may even begin to feel inadequate or beat themselves up for not being able to achieve it.
Juggling too much is rarely the issue. Aligning all things with vision is.
For example, if your vision involves starting your own business or being a more attentive and involved mother or making time for travel and your actions don’t reflect the vision, you will feel out of balance.
Without a clarified vision, you may feel off-kilter or as if something is missing.
I have a friend who loves to sing. However, the busy-ness of life had put singing on the back burner. In fact, the burner wasn’t even on! She thought the “hobby” would fit somewhere in the midst of all that she was doing, except she didn’t have time for a ‘hobby’. When she started to clarify her vision, she realized that singing was a way to express herself. She realized singing was a vital part of her vision and a priority she needed to make time for. So she joined her church choir and it made all the difference.
Why? Work was part of her vision. Family was part of her vision. Singing was part of that vision too, a part that she had initially ignored. Once her vision, thoughts and actions were in alignment, she immediately felt more in balance.
If you are feeling imbalanced or in a swirl, follow these steps:
1. Clarify your vision. Ask yourself:
• What is most important to me?
• What do I love doing so much I lose track of time
• If I were to create my life from scratch, what would I be doing?
• Is there any role I’m playing that might not be in alignment with what I want for myself?
• If there’s anything missing that I need to include?
2. Align your thinking with your vision. Ask yourself:
• What thoughts run counter to the vision I’ve created?
• What thoughts would be more in alignment with my vision?
• Does my self-talk promote my vision?
• How does my self-talk have to change to promote my vision?
3. Take action to create your vision. Ask yourself:
• What actions should I start doing to create my vision?
• What actions should I continue doing to make my vision a reality?
• What actions should I stop doing to create my vision?
Balance is different for everybody because everyone is different. Your work, your family, your passions make you unique and those things create balance that is personalized just for you.
Now, having shared all of that with you, I’d like to offer a slight paradigm shift in thinking. So consider this: Balance is an illusion. Balance is an experience you have when all things aligned. If you are curious to learn more about the illusion of balance, call me and I’ll explain this a bit deeper in a complimentary session.
In addition, if you struggle with finding your way in life or business and you know something’s just not quite right with how you want things to be, call me for a complimentary coaching session. I’ll show you the right mix of actions to produce your most desired outcome.
I can be reached at staff@theP3Group.com or 910 221 9294
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Lisa Thomas is the CEO of The P3 Group, Inc. and The P3 Group International, LLC, publisher of The P3 Power Boost Online Magazine, host of The P3 Power Boost Radio Show, and President of the Board of Directors of NetWorth. She is a 20-year veteran in business, executive leadership and performance coaching/consulting. She has worked extensive with corporate call centers, executives and small business enterprises. She’s been a featured columnist and business strategist on Affiliate NPR, WFDD, The Cary News, Fox 8 and numerous NBC affiliate stations.
Lisa is best known for her business and leadership acumen and is widely recognized her ability to develop leaders to be more effective. Lisa is also a sought after keynote speaker on various topics women in leadership face. She generously donates her time and expertise to a number of organizations and worthy causes, including NetWorth, the Business Succession Forum Network, and the Hazel B. Neal Foundation, for which she recently was recognized with the woman of Power, Purpose and Vision award. In her downtime, she can be found practicing yoga, cycling, swimming, reading a good book or spending time with family and friends.
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